Want To Want To Is Don't!
Editor’s Note: This newsletter was originally published on Monday, September 5th, 2022.
We often have an uncomfortable feeling or fear of telling the truth. Most of us want to see ourselves as “nice” people and try to avoid intentionally hurting others.
This manifested for me recently when I thought about a situation where someone told me that they “wanted to want to” do something. In a moment of rare clarity, I heard the response for what it really means.
If they “wanted to” want to do it, they didn’t want to.
Note:
- I do appreciate the grace and kindness.
- I also appreciate the sentiment that there was no maliciousness in their sentiment.
That doesn’t change the very real fact that our wishes and intentions were not aligned.
Just keep in mind that compromise and consensus are the hallmarks of a relationship. However, don’t let yourself be fooled by intents and “wishes” in place of your fundamental needs and desires.
As we are finishing or will have finished the Labor Day weekend while you are reading, I hope you had a relaxing time with family & friends. I also want to wish you an amazing late start to the week on Tuesday!
Unrelated Sports Mention
For those who have been missing our personal sports nuggets, you need to wait no longer as Football Season is upon us! Without further ado…
- We can start out with our Atlanta Braves who as of this newsletter will be no worse than 2 games out of 1st place in the National League East. Sunday afternoon’s game is currently in a rain delay (Braves currently lead Marlins 2-0 in the 5th), but they are getting very close to overtaking the New York Mets. It is likely that the division race will not be settled for good until the late September head-to-head series at Truist Park.
- Shout out to my buddy, Scot Chartrand (@sflone) whose Florida Gators won an upset in “The Swamp” over a higher-ranked Utah team. We’ll be on opposing sides at the end of October in Jacksonville, but for this weekend, congrats & enjoy!
- UGA (as The Rock would say) “laid the smacketh down” on Oregon in this weekend’s neutral site Chik-Fil-A game at Mercedes-Benz Stadium. The final score was 49-3 and the game really wasn’t THAT close. Georgia’s starter (Stetson Bennett) was pulled in the 3rd Quarter and their 2nd stringers & backups were also able to do pretty much anything that they wanted to do. Bo Nix endured what he probably hopes is his last look at UGA’s defense after another game with no TDs and two more INTs. Next week’s “Bulldog” match-up against Samford should be another opportunity to play & evaluate a bunch of players before getting into their SEC schedule.
- If you do not feel you are fairly compensated, you can go work somewhere else (or change careers altogether).
- If you dislike the people with whom you interact (or how they might influence you), you can distance yourself and find different ones.
- If you do not want to pay for repairs on your car anymore, you can replace it with one in better condition (or even a new one).
Consider the above cases…
- Your new job or career could offer greater compensation, but require lots more attention and time. It could be more or less secure. You will only eventually find it you are in a better (or worse) situation.
- New friends might be different (or you might find that the common denominator is You).
- Your new car might influence other budgetary decisions (vacations, housing, etc) besides your vehicle maintenance costs.
In choosing what we think we want, we are equally deciding what we will not get.
At the end of the day, we have to be ok with the outcome. Be sure that it is truly what you want (and what you can accept not getting)!
This is one of the keys to Happiness!
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For those checking out the book reviews, I reviewed Twelve And A Half (Amazon affiliate link) by Gary Vaynerchuk. You can check out my notes at this link.
Keep a lookout as I have finished reading the following books and will be posting my notes for those very soon!
- E-Myth Revisited (Amazon affiliate link) by Michael Gerber [review notes link]
- One Million Followers (Amazon affiliate link) by Brendan Kane
- Content Inc. (Amazon affiliate link) by Joe Pulizzi
- Twelve And A Half (Amazon affiliate link) by Gary Vaynerchuk
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Other Links
- History of Social Media
- What we know of Social Media might have come to the forefront with the launch of networks like Facebook & YouTube, but the roots of what we know today can be traced back to the 1970s. Knowing the origins can sometimes help guide our understanding and decisions. Take a few minutes down “Memory Lane” for a little of your own!
- Learn Local SEO
- If your audience and customer base are dominated by local geography, don’t overlook the power of Local SEO. Ranking for an area of service is much different (in both scale and cost) when you can blend location-based characteristics into your content and targeting.
- Technical SEO Checklist
- Our friends at Search Engine Journal shared this straightforward checklist for technical SEO of your site. Take a few minutes and review your site to identify some improvement opportunities in your unique situation.
- Six (6) Agile Principles to assist your Software Design Process
- I have been actively involved in software development for the better part of two decades. During that time, I have been a contributor, leader, and coach for Agile teams. If you are unfamiliar, check out this article for a little background.
My Favorite Writings Tools for 2022:
— Easlo (@heyeaslo) September 4, 2022
1. Grammarly (@Grammarly)—Write mistake-free.
2. CopyAI (@copy_ai)—Generate content with AI.
3. Typefully (@typefully)—Write tweets w/o distractions.
4. Hemingway( @HemingwayApp)—Make writing bold and clear.
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